I certainly am guilty of some of what you describe above--well, more than some, and will try to mend my michievous ways. I also address certain members by name (without thinking of how it may be received by others) and will mend that way, too.
Here's a Onelook entry on deconstructionism that's interesting in that it focuses on how what we read is finally in the mind of the reader, which we can't fully know:
de·con·struc·tion (dkn-strkshn)
n.
A philosophical movement and theory of literary criticism that questions traditional assumptions about certainty, identity, and truth; asserts that words can only refer to other words; and attempts to demonstrate how statements about any text subvert their own meanings: “In deconstruction, the critic claims there is no meaning to be found in the actual text, but only in the various, often mutually irreconcilable, ‘virtual texts’ constructed by readers in their search for meaning” (Rebecca Goldstein). http://www.dictionary.com/cgi-bin/dict.pl?term=deconstructionism
