Dear Max, I join your other AWAD friends in offering condolences. "Condoleces" seem to me to be , too often, trite and not communicative of the intended sentiment. I have hesitated, but nevertheless presumed, to offer the following excerpt from Barchester Towers which sentiment may seem , at first blush, heartless and uncaring, but one which, as Trollop states, is, in fact, expressive of God's mercy.

"How much kinder is God to us than we are willing to be to ourselves! ....'Let me ever remember my living friends, but forget them as soon as dead' was the prayer of a wise man who understood the mercy of God. Few perhaps will have the courage to express such a wish, and yet to do so would only be to ask for that release from sorrow which a kind Creator almost always extends to us."

We would NOT FORGET the persons who have gone, but would merely be recipients of the release from sorrow which God graciously grants. May God grant such tender mercy to you, my friend.