First--if I got it right, "have requested" doesn't apply yet.
Secondly: thanks, tsuwm, for the link. The ones I feel strongest about are: Slanderous, defamatory, obscene, indecent, lewd, pornographic, violent, abusive, insulting, threatening and harassing comments will be removed without comment.
No personal attacks or "flames" are allowed. Flames are defined as comments that reflect upon the person instead of their opinion.
As to Profanity or obscenities of any kind are not permitted, not even if disguised with *asterisks. , by and large we have used the asterisk method. That suits me just fine, though I know some people have no problem reading the "real" thing; and we may have some people who are offended by it.
Two things that haven't particularly bothered me but that others feel strongly about are: No advertising of any kind, including non-profit organizations, is permitted.
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No copyrighted material is allowed. Please use links instead of quotes. However, posts containing links to pornographic, racist, violent or offensive sites will be removed. So as far as I'm concerned we can continue trying to honor these.
Third: just above are two examples of what I was talking about when I said that we have made great efforts to accommodate each others' sensibilities: I let it be known that I didn't care much for reading curse words, and they mostly vanished; and I saw other people get upset over advertisements and copyright violations, and, although I don't understand their vehemence, have at least tried not to post either of those things. Aside: here, I think, is a good place to point out that I am not well-versed (to put it mildly) in internet protocol. All I know is that it is my core belief that people ought to be nice to each other.
Fourth: I would like to clarify/reiterate something from my long post above. Specifically, the importance I place on the difference between lapses of...good manners, for lack of a better term, and consistence/insistence of going one's own way. Over time, I have gotten many comments along the line of, "Look here, look at this, So-and-So was so mean, right here". Well--to me, there is a HUGE, HUGE difference between people who occasionally* let their tempers get the better of them and people who continue to insist on posting things they have been repeatedly asked and told not to. I consider the former to be more or less mistakes, and the latter deliberate provocation. Most people have a temper, and some are better at controlling it than others. People who post according to their own agendas again and again and again, knowing that that type of post will be unwelcome do so because they choose to do so. And therein lies the difference.
*There are some people who "regularly" lose their tempers, yes. What I would like certain other people to keep in mind is the time frame: I don't consider that losing one's temper ten or even fifteen times in five years is all that bad. They have apologized most of the time, and in the interims probably restrain themselves more than I will ever know. So I'm willing to give them an e for effort.
Fifth: I very much like the idea of consistent welcoming. I used to do it all the time, but that just isn't possible, now. If somebody new posts in a category I don't read, I won't know about it(!); or if I happen to see a new person when my time is very limited, I don't do it then, either.
