yes, I thought cross-posting would be a bad idear....but I was DESPERATE, DESPERATE I TELL YOU! Ah well. Wound up going with "a wise person once said" and not attributing. Sigh.

Edit, a moment later: I would, of course, still like to find out the exact quote and who said it....Another reason cross-posting is a bad idear: haven't checked other place I posted this. Maybe the answer is already there....! Okay, I won't do it again.