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Oh, come on now tsuwm. getting married is fun, what with new clothes, and households, and stationery, and wedding showers, and wedding parties...
its the daily grind of being (remaining!) married that is so awful. we can no longer count on disease to carry off our first husband, (or wife as the case may be) and instead of serial monogamay, we now have long marriages.
it wasn't uncommon for a old widower, (with money!) to marry some poor but hot young thing, and sow his last oats..
and then leave her a young widow, with dependent child(ren)and the childs estate to manage.. with a bit of money of her own, hopefully too.
and some poor young man, looking to make his way in the world, would take on (now) the less than prime widow, with her kids, and give her a few more, till she dropped from exhaustion, or some complication of birthing, and he would inherit her money, (and control over the moneys of his step children) and use those assets to build up his holding so he could be a rich old widower, who could marry a poor but hot babe!
keeping the same husband (or wife) for years and years on end is a rather new life style, and the prospect is scary! Forget Pre-nups, let's go for contract marriage.. 5 years at a time.. no divorce.. just come to the end of contract time and either renew, or end!
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what we have here is [yet another] failure to communicate.  I'm trying to differentiate between 'getting' married (e.g., "let's get married") and 'being': staying, remaining, continuing in the state of being married. and thus, my a) and b) were meant to cover the two senses of our word: fear of the process of getting married and fear of the continuing state of marriage. but now that we've gone this far down the pathology of wedded bliss, I must say this: all these odd -phobias (see links above) are nothing short of a joke to serious lexicographers. people have come to believe there must be a -phobia for almost everything, and if there isn't one for what they're thinking of, they coin another one. [witness this very thread.] dictionaries treat them with short shrift: a. L. -phobia, a. Gr. -uob¬a, forming abst. ns. from the adjs. in -u¾bo| (see -phobe) with sense ‘dread, horror’; as in Ídqouob¬a, hydrophobia ‘horror of water’. Also in modern words formed in Eng. by analogy, as Anglophobia, Gallophobia, Germanophobia, Russophobia, some of them imitating Fr. forms in -phobie. The following exemplify the uses to which -phobia has been put (thirteen(!) examples follow.) there are only 100 headwords otherwise spread throughout the OED of which these are the only a*phobias: acrophobia
aerophobia, aerophoby
agoraphobia
ailurophobia
algophobia
Anglophobia
anthropophobia
astrophobia and the g*phobias even fewer/less
Gallophobia
Germanophobia
gynophobia
so what's my point? I guess I'm changing my tune. go ahead and coin. you're just as good as the next gamophobe. odds are it'll never see print anyways. [btw, gamos = anglisized Gk. for marriage, whose first sense is: 1. a. The condition of being a husband or wife; the relation between married persons; spousehood, wedlock.]
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tsuwm writes at the end:
wedlock
...and there's the rub.
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I wasn't asking for myself ...  However, if staying = remaining, then tsuwm's (b) would do the trick I suppose. Ta, folks. Pleasantly unDraconian, it's been! Even if that was somewhat anastrophic.
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all these odd -phobias are nothing short of a joke to serious lexicographers. people have come to believe there must be a -phobia for almost everything
Mrs. Byrne lists acarophobia, acoustico~, aeluro~, agora~, agyio~, aichmo~, algo~, amatho~, amaxo~fear of being withut Max?, ambulo~, anthropo~, anupta~, atychi~, automyso~, and auto~ -- and that's just the A's. The book as a whole has well over a hundred.
Grandiloquent Dictionary has 57 in the A's alone. notably including amomaxiaphobia - A fear of making love in an automobile
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>Mrs. Byrne
good heavens, you'll be at it all night -- there are more than 20 just in the As. (but see the Grandiloquent Dictionary, which has 60 or so As.)
nicely timed edit!
p.s. - arithomomania, a mania for counting
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p.s. - arithomomania, a mania for countingp.s. - apeirophobia - a fear of infinity p.s. - arithmophobia - a fear of numbers
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I was talking to a friend the other day , I asked him about the likelihood of his getting married again he replied "I'm not going to bother to get married again.No, to save time I'm just going to find someone who hates me and buy them a house."
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Wasn't it Albert Einstein who said "There are only two things which are infinite. These are the universe and human stupidity - and I'm not so sure about the universe."?
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