it has been pointed out that I somehow missed an illocution:"Have you stopped beating your dog yet?" is NOT an illocution? Did I get that right? [how could this have happened?] rhetorical question

the answer is, yes, the quoted question is not an illocution in the manner in which illocution is defined philosophically and in speech theory. I xrefer you to the following: http://www.xrefer.com/entry/571772

while in theory a loaded question may have illocutionary force (I ain't no speech theoretician), an illocution is *not a loaded question, from my reading of it.