If a bunch of linguaphiles can't disagree in a civil manner what hope is there for the rest of the world?
Indeed, Bingley. Jo, you made some excellent points, too.

I have been nothing but impressed with how everyone, and I mean everyone, has posted with such consideration and courtesy toward each other. Emotions everywhere are higher over this than probably about 'most anything, and yet--the anger, when it appeared, was directed at ideas, not people, and apologies were offered before being asked for.
Kudos--you all are great. J. Love (thanks, mav!)