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The Photo taking you speak of Bingley sound very similar to "the Photo taking cerimony" at my sister's ½ Japanese wedding--
First Photos of B&G with His family, then B&G with Her family, then B&G with both sides of the family, then B&G with all his male relatives, then B&G with all her male relatives, then each with female relatives, then male friends, then female friends, then a group shot of every one at the wedding, then all the males at the wedding, then all the females-- but i might have gotten the order wrong...
The batiks and clothing sound wonderful-- My family is pretty unconventional when it comes to wedding clothing. The wedding are almost like the kind in movies -- but just missing one or two things-- or have something extra, like pipers-- we often have pipers at weddings. or things like -- my daughter in law - she desided to wear white-- but she found a beautiful pair of chinese red embroidered wedding slippers-- so she wore red shoes with her white dress.. a cousin, who is also a runner got married in a new pair of Nike's-- she couldn't quite afford everything-- and she had a long white dress, she figured nobody would much see her shoes anyway--and she needed a new pair of nike's for an upcoming race...
I think what i like best is the merging of cultures as well as families.. all cultures have ceremonies for the bride and groom-- and even they are totally new-- they are all fun and enjoyable.. Some of the ceremonal bits you described sound very similar to many western wedding -- "recieving lines" (with family lined up so you can meet and greet) and while we don't have thrones-- The "brides table" is often on a raised platform.. (and the smashed egg sound better than the new custom of smashing wedding cake into each other faces!) There are so many games..
I am very lucky-- one sister married to japanese, a close cousin married to a jamacian, a daughter in law who is half filipino, half aussie--many friends of other cultural backgrounds Often think i am most boring person in my 'set'-- mono lingual, never having lived anywhere but NYC, and having only had small opportunities to travel.. but my friends are all so kind-- and i get to have this rich wonderful life-- because they include me! I haven't traveled around the world-- but i have been to hindu weddings, budist weddings, chinese wedding, the crazy wedding that are all to common in my own family (family trate-- bride never get a dress until last month--"earlyist" date in family is 27 days before wedding..Theory is you'll find something-- never yet had a wedding with the bride walking down the aisle naked!-- but who know-- maybe well have a wedding one of these days at a nudist park!) I made my wedding dress-- and finished sewing the buttons on it 2 hours before the wedding-- while my hair was drying...
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Our wedding was pretty North American, except that instead of the usual tall, architectural cake, we had "cultural desserts". My mother-in-law made a Norwegian ring cake (decorated with little Norwegian, Ukrainian, and Italian flags), a family friend made Ukrainian wedding bread (I forget the name, it was decorated with leaves and birds), and another family friend made Sardinian sweets (piddu da mongia/gueffusu/nuns' farts, and amaretti), which were served in Sardinian baskets (now hanging on our multi-cultural wall).
The interesting thing was that both the Norwegian and Sardinian treats were almond-based. My aunty actually had to bring bitter almonds from Sardinia because we couldn't seem to find any in Canada. I read some sort of explanation somewhere about bitter almonds and marriage, although I can't remember the details just now.
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Bingley says
Indonesian weddings are different.
Shall we award him with "most exotic" wedding experience? I am sure it is a resounding yes.
Thank you, Bingley, for taking the time to give us a glimpse, through a such a vivid imagery, of a wedding many of us will never get to see.
I get the sense of the smell
(The water has flowers, I believe jasmine)
and the colors
The bride wears special make up which is supposed to represent shadows from foliage on her face. She also has a tiara with lots of waving dangly bits. The groom wears a batik shirt
and the pageantry
Performers give traditional dances (for people from S. Sumatra the bride dances in public for the one and only time in her life). The couple kneel before each set of parents to thank them for their upbringing, and then feed each other with a handful of rice. Javanese and Sundanese then have the egg ceremony. The groom steps on and breaks an egg and the bride then washes his feet. The couple then sit back down on their thrones
Many, many thanks for a beautiful postcard!
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Aha! Is it - could it be - a Zildism? Nah, I'm sure the presently absent Ozzies among us use it, too. Bingley, a wedding breakfast is just another name for a wedding reception. The term "breakfast" is a hangover from its original meaning of "breaking one's fast". It has nothing to do with mornings or afternoons or evenings. As it happens our wedding was at 4 p.m.-ish. 
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...polygyny (a males acquisition of many females), polyandry( a female's taking of more than one partner)...Is it just me, or had anyone else noticed the difference between these two *definitions.
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Is it just me, or had anyone else noticed the difference between these two *definitions.
Or is that because polyandry ought to be measured against polygamy rather than polygyny? 
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Or is that because polyandry ought to be measured against polygamy rather than polygyny?No, wordcrazy got it right. Polygamy is a general term, referring to a marriage that includes more than two people. Polygyny and Polyandry are specific terms-- polygyny is one man married to two or more women, polyandry is one woman married to two or more men. If you already knew this and were trying to make a humorous point, which I failed to pick up on, forgive me for being pedantic! But I have to show off my Anthropology knowledge somehow...
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If you already knew this and were trying to make a humorous point, which I failed to pick up on, forgive me for being pedantic!No apology necessary - I was not being humorous, merely ignorant. Remember, this is the same clown who got the US/Canada border confused with the Nth/Sth. Korea border!  
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MaxQ: I was not being humorous, merely ignorant
Does this mean I can point out the inequality of *acquire vs. *taking?
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Remember, this is the same clown who got the
US/Canada border confused with the Nth/Sth. Korea border!
When was this?!
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