Last I checked, it takes two to breed. But maybe things are starting to turn around.

"A man falls in love through his eyes, a woman through her ears." Woodrow Wyatt

In my experience, perhaps it's true that sexually successful women attempt to LOOK LIKE what men find attractive; and while many modern men might do the vice versa (i.e. metrosexuality), I think that men more often than not feel that they must BE what a woman wants.

Confident, successful, clever, witty, talented, these are things that women look for in a man more than the visual ... although the right shoes seem to be rather important.

I'll add anecdotally that I once adopted the caring, sensitive attitude of an enlightened man. And while I made a lot of friends in that period, I never got laid. All my newfound female friends kept running away with machos. Go figure. Now that I'm a pig again, I can hardly get any privacy.