I just discovered this--thank you! I really owe you a lot, you know that?

Helen, you're right: we ARE much less friendly and open than we used to be. Sigh; 2002 cost us trust that we will never again have. But we'd have probably had enough spoilers since then to have changed us anyway. But MAN, that first year-and-a-half were great, weren't they?
Sorry--I can't think of the word you're looking for, either.