I've just started reading Antonia Fraser's "The Weaker Vessel", about women in 17th century England. She's talking about Elizabeth Walker, whose husband, Dr. Anthony Walker, wrote a biography of her.

On another occasion Dr Walker was telling Elizabeth why he loved her and began: 'First for conscience -'. She stopped him.

'I would have thee love me, not because thou must but because thou wilt, not as a duty but as a delight. For,' she added, 'we are prone to reluctate against what is imposed, but to take pleasure in what we choose.'

'Our mutual compellation', wrote Dr Walker, 'was always "My dear", not spoken automatically nor as an empty compliment, but the sincere interpretation of the language of our hearts.'

I'm not sure about compellation, but I think reluctate is worth reviving.

Bingley

Bingley