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There is a word for "Telling people something nice someone else said about them so that they would say something nice about you". I have lost the word. Please help me find it.
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pander?
From Amer. Heritage:
brownnose, cajole, fish, gratify, indulge, massage, please, politic, satisfy, snow, soap, soften up, spook, stroke
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Thanks grapho, but I just found it.
I hunted him in old files...hidden treasure in AWAD archives!
trade-last : A compliment that a person has heard and offers to repeat to the one
complimented in exchange for a compliment made about oneself.
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It's kinda odd though, don't you think raju. What would a person do, go up to someone and say, "hey Mary, Velma said you have nice hair" and then what, ask if Mary thinks the speaker has nice hair too.
Very confusing.
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Date: Thu Jul 3 00:01:08 EDT 2003
Subject: A.Word.A.Day--trade-last
X-Bonus: The true civilization is where every man gives to every other every right that he claims for himself. -Robert Green Ingersoll, lawyer and orator (1833-1899)
trade-last (TRAYD-last) noun
A compliment that a person has heard and offers to repeat to the one
complimented in exchange for a compliment made about oneself.
[From trade + last.]
"A voluptuous brunette in a rose-pink dress and diamonds dragged her down
to the arm of her rocker.
`I got a trade-last for you, Myra.'"
Fannie Hurst (1889-1968); Summer Resources (short story).
"`I have a trade-last for you, Ida,' she said. `Mrs. Mallard is in the
library, discussing our club, and I heard mother say something awfully
nice about you.'
`Tell it!' demanded Lloyd.
`No, I said a trade-last.'
`Oh, fishing for a compliment!' sang Katie."
Annie Fellows Johnston (1863-1931); The Little Colonel at Boarding
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Ah, so the person just up and asks for a compliment. Sheesh, a little vain, no? My initial reaction to somebody saying that to me would be, "have you lost your mind?"
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Ah, so the person just up and asks for a compliment.Yeah, pretty much like asking a person if you can use them as a reference in a job application or resume, belMarduk. "Trade-last" does take all the sport out of it. It turns "fishing for a compliment" into a commercial transaction. Another meaning of pandering [in criminal law] is "whoring". When you get right down to it, it's hard to put a good spin on "sucking up". "Trade-last" is just calling reciprocal trade in praise what it really is. At least, it's value neutral. It's the toll in extol. What is won with false praise is lost with false favor.
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My initial reaction to somebody saying that to me would be, "have you lost your mind?"
>>That's precisely what I thought when I came across the word for the first time, but unfortunately I met someone with a lost mind a couple of days back. There are people who do that! There's no dearth of people who have lost their minds - which is obvious from the fact that there's a word for this kind of (can irritating be innocuous?) behavior :)
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Really raju? Seriously, every day I am surprised by what people do. It looks like an arcane word, so I was assuming this type of thing didn't happen anymore.
Anybody who would ask me that would probably walk away more frustrated than pleased. After the "have you lost your mind" I'm sure I'd burst our laughing. It's just so hilarious.
What did you say when the person asked raju? Didja manage to come up with something suitable?
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