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i thought the book depressing

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i agree strongly. it is so disappointing when TH says "if this would have happened then they've lived happily ever after...but it didn't...". i mean we all miss some opportunities but not all the time. nobody is doomed
i think I'll try to read something else by Hardy and compare. his analysis of the process of peasants turning agricultural workers is quite striking but...but...but