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Been trying hard to find out. "Safe delivery" makes it sound like DHL.
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> DHL  I must admit to cowardice - any mention of good luck or success immediately raises the spectre of the inverse! Perhaps you could wish her "an easy and happy pregnancy"? But I'll defer to the ladies who probably have more experience on this one!
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I'll defer to the ladies who probably have more experience on this one! You mean, the ones who've been pregnant more times than you have?  Hi, vino, and welcome aBoard. "Congratulations" is the short-and-sweet route; however, not every mother-to-be is happy about that circumstance, and in the instances where I've suspected that might be the case, I just say, "I hope everything goes well". Edit: vino, what is that icon you used, and how did you get it, please? Edit 2: !! Now, what I saw earlier has turned into a book! The other thing looked, as best I can describe it, like a drawing of a yellow car battery with a 3 in it.
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Hi Vino I agree with Jackie, a hearty "Congratulations" is always perfect when you know the person is happy about the pregnancy. "I'm so happy for you" is also good (if you are). There are many superstitions surrounding pregnancy so definitely avoid saying "good luck". "Good luck" is usually used in circumstances where a person's success is not always assured, and that is certainly not what you want to have the pregnant woman worrying about. "Good lord, I hope the baby doesn't look like his father!" should only be used if you know the person very well and they have a sense of humour.  
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Under no circumstances should an apparently pregnant unknown woman be congratulated on her pregnancy because of the horrendous possibility that she may not be pregnant but only overweight in a way which mimics the appearance of carrying a child. This rule rises from experience!
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Oooo, ya, that can be brutal for both parties.
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for a long time, any mention of a lady being pregnant was really taboo.
pregnacy is proof you're having sex.
if you're unmarried, well, it could be a reflection on your character, (or a painful reminder of an assault)
if you're married, well, its a reflection of private communication between spouses. (and no one's business!)
things have changed--but to some degree, the less said the better. there are many things that can go wrong. mothers to be are anaxious, and self conscious. quiet congratulations are best, and then take the key from the M-T-B's reaction.
if she seem eager to talk, OK. but...
and to some degree, what ever you say, you say not just to the M-t-B--but to the couple (OK, showing a bias here.) since while the woman might be pregant, they are having a child.
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