what the hell is a defs?
You are onto something there, at last. Why not first define "definition"? It contains the root "finis", meaning border, frontier. This hints at the difficulty of drawing a borderline between two directions, or polarities, or tendencies. Quite automatically, personal preferences creep in, because there is no fixed middle point.
If you compound that with the notoriously controversial subject of culture, you are ready for battle. If you prefer peace, first try to keep things (actions, customs) and their (fashion-dependent) designations apart.