Or is that it, "Abuse" is the word that describes the pain?

Abuse is the instrumentality which delivers the pain, AlimaeHP, not the pain itself.

Actually, it is irrelevant whether the abuse is "verbal, physical, emotional or some other kind of abuse", at least in terms of the impact of the pain on the victim's psyche.

Pain is pain.

Different people have different threshholds of pain, and different triggers for pain.

Just as beauty is in the eye of the beholder, pain is in the mind of the sufferer.