tsuwm wrote: translated early last century from the G. einfuhlung, maybe German has something for the lack thereof as well....

Well German's easy in that respect innit:
empathy = Einfühlung(svermögen)
a lack there of = Einfühlungsdefizit

Other synonyms:
uncaring
inconsiderate

btw .. while we're at it ...what's the difference (if any) between sympathy and empathy?