which came first? the chicken or the egg?

its hard to tell in disputes who started it, but its easy to see who is keeping it up.

and it takes a while for a dispute to heal.. its best if the parties who want to repair the relationship be extra careful, and overly kind, else one or the other is likely to take a quick comment, a pinprick, as a lances blow.

and if time and time again, there are repeated pin pricks, never anything more than pinpricks, but an endless stream of them, even they get to be unpleasant and annoying.. it hardly helps when the person holding the pin declares, "its only a pin prick, its only done in jest"

Its never for the person holding the pin to decide how much or how little a pin prick hurts. its for the person who was pricked to say how much it hurt.

besides, pin pricks, no matter how small or large are never very fun.

but that my opinion.