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... all those dark-eyed Greek girls are (at least distantly) related.
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I longed to be, not in the opposite mindset of love--loathing or hate--but in the middle; that of indifference, or "out of love."
There is an old saying, CathCoy:
"Friendship often ends in love, but love in friendship never."
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Welcome aBoard, Cath. Your book sounds great. Well, there's always 'old flame'. First love or first crush, if the number's correct. (Somehow second love, etc., just doesn't have the same impact!) Oh--heartthrob? I suppose you could get lengthier with something along the lines of "the one whose protective shell remained impervious to the love I poured over it" (yeah, yeah, sign me up for Bulwer-Lytton). Or how about "mistaken soulmate"? Also--you might try a thesaurus, if you haven't.
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All your suggestions are so thoughtful. Thank you. I especially liked Jackie's "the one whose protective shell remained impervious to the love I poured over it." Now there's a definition waiting for a word!
Maybe "beloved" isn't such an inappropriate word. In many relationships, the dichotomy is that there's a beloved and a lover instead of the reciprical beloved and beloved. Or Party A may fall out of love before Party B. Party B is left stranded with full feelings that must be gotten over.
Geez, if there isn't a word for such a predicament, there should be!
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Do you know, crush is the only noun I can think of that carries the connotation that the love wasn't returned. There really should be a word for what you're looking for--shades of meaning like Anu said in his Monday Word this week--because crush can also imply that the love was not love, but only infatuation. Anything else seems to require more words; for ex., the object of my (unrequited) affection.
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theMilum's contribution lasslorn + example in another thread [Words for readers/writers] may give you a lead, CathCoy.
lasslorn: (LAS-lorn) jilted by one's girlfriend.
Knowing the nature of the lasslorn, as time ticks he will be less lorn.
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Jackie, I didn't get much help from a thesaurus but I thought I'd post this link, which will keep me busy for a while.
http://home.comcast.net/~walkswithastick/relationshipsA.html#B
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...stringer! A stringer is someone to whom you're still emotionally attached, as if by a string (or, in some cases, a 100-pound ball 'n chain). Many times, the Stringer enjoys your attachment, even if s/he's not willing or able to return your emotional involvement.
It's not easy to become unattached to a Stringer, as many a Stringee can attest, but it's possible.
Many thanks to everyone who commented.
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Many times, the Stringer enjoys your attachment...
The word 'Stringer' *seems to suggest that person is always pulling on the string... or at least is the one who has created the string... especially if we denote a 'stringee'.
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