so, maybe this is only me, and I need to lighten up, but is there a word for the change of feeling when you try to do something nice for someone and they ignore you, and you just end up getting angry/frustrated instead?
Psycho?
Seriously, I know what you mean. Letdown?
Or comedown?
Chagrin? anticlimax? killjoy? damper?
Can't think of anything else... bah, thought I could come up with more, what a chagrin!
heh. ®
letdown comes close, I guess, but I think I'm still looking...
Faldage has what would fit the closest for me, but I'll add 'disappointment' anyway.
Which leads me into thinking about expectations: things like this always seem worse when we have been expecting gratitude, or at the very least acknowledgement. Something, akin to assumptions I guess, that I've not been able to completely rid myself of yet. Even when long history would seem to warrant you being able to expect a certain behavior, people can still let you down--which of course wouldn't have happened if you had not had the expectation.
yeah, righteous indignation is getting close. I don't know that I have expectations for gratitude, it's just that you want to do something nice, because that makes you feel good, and then, poof, somebody doesn't accept it. hmm.
Yeah. I have learned, though, that sometimes there are reasons why someone doesn't accept a helping hand. For ex.: 1.) they're just independent cusses; 2.) they think YOU think they're less than fully independent, and they can't stand this idea; 3.) they're simply too preoccupied with other things to notice either the helping hand, and/or to bother to show appreciation. And then again--sometimes it's that they're just plain rude!
well, I think this particular situation was mostly #3, but that happens often these days, it seems...
And people sometimes simply view help as interference -- which does *not necessarily make them independent cusses. In such cases, it's best not to take it personally.
Disgruntlement? Umbrage?
Everyone gets stuck for a word now and then.
Like this classic, from Poe :
There were the junior clerks of flash houses - young gentlemen with tight coats, bright boots, well-oiled hair, and supercilious lips. Setting aside a certain dapperness of carriage, which may be termed deskism for want of a better word, the manner of these persons seemed to be an exact facsimile of what had been the perfection of bon ton about twelve or eighteen months before.
-- The Man of the Crowd, 1840
Deskism?
[cough-terrible-cough]
The mot juste this is not.
(I wonder is there a word for this common experience of being bereft of words... for lexical amnesia... for not being quite able to pin it down in a word?)
What was a flash house, please?
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What was a flash house, please?
A brothel, for the wearers of cheap, flashy jewelry who frequent them.
Thanks! Do we have bling houses, today?
Just last week I heard from a former 3rd grade student of mine, now in 6th. She sent me a poem which will help you handle your predicament:
Perspective
By Jamie
Some people care,
Some people don't.
So don't sit around
and mope
Just because
A friend in need
Does not consider
Your well
Thought-out
Deed.
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Disgruntlement? Umbrage?
Everyone gets stuck for a word now and then.
Like this classic, from Poe :
There were the junior clerks of flash houses - young gentlemen with tight coats, bright boots, well-oiled hair, and supercilious lips. Setting aside a certain dapperness of carriage, which may be termed deskism for want of a better word, the manner of these persons seemed to be an exact facsimile of what had been the perfection of bon ton about twelve or eighteen months before.
-- The Man of the Crowd, 1840
Deskism?
[cough-terrible-cough]
The mot juste this is not.
(I wonder is there a word for this common experience of being bereft of words... for lexical amnesia... for not being quite able to pin it down in a word?)
hmm.. i think we all need a word for this oh-so-very ubiquitous situation..not being able to find the right word when we require it..
nothing strikes me.
>I wonder is there a word for this common experience of being bereft of words... for lexical amnesia... for not being quite able to pin it down in a word?<
I'd tell you what it is, but I'm suffering from
lethologica.
o great..thats a real help..now it would be easier to flip people around!!
Lethologica!
I didn't know there was a word for it! That's so... so... happy-making.
re : lethologica
Wouldn't "letholexica" (or something like it) make more sense?
How does "lethologica" break down etymologically?
Gr. logos word, speech, discourse, reason
Gr. lethe forgetfulness
edit: perhaps you'd prefer loganamnosis.
Or logamnesia -- oh wait, I'll bet that means forgetting your password.
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What was a flash house, please?
A brothel, for the wearers of cheap, flashy jewelry who frequent them.
For all I know brothels may have been called flash houses, but that meaning doesn't seem to fit the context:
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I think it's unlikely that brothels would employ junior clerks. And Poe distinguishes between 'junior clerks of flash houses' and 'upper clerks of staunch firms'. I think 'house' here just means business or company -- as it often did in the 19th century -- and a flash house would mean a probably ephemeral company where the emphasis was on style rather than substance (perhaps we would say flashy these days rather than flash).